Making Meaning in the Midst of Crisis

Title: Making Meaning in the Midst of Crisis; Picture: Heart made up of multi-colored hands

Big world events – like COVID-19 (coronavirus) and climate change – can drive us to despair. I’ve semi-seriously joked that my anxiety about climate change has at least prepared me for this outbreak. But I’ve also learned that there are a couple of ways to react to these big world events, some of which are mentally and emotionally healthier than others.

In a study by a Swedish University that I found in my book research, researchers found that teenagers reacted to climate change in three ways: “emotion-focused,” “problem-focused,” and “meaning-focused.”

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The One Question All Privileged Parents Should Ask at School Meetings

Text: The One Question All Privileged Parents Should Ask at School Meetings Photo: "Focus 2: Facility utilization / School diversity / Proximity on left side and Objectives: Understand --- diversity and why it is important; Understand the range of socioeconomic and demographic dissimilarity across clusters. Diversity includes demographic diversity as well as socioeconomic diversity."

The exact numbers weren’t easy to read, but the graph lines showing the poll results were clear – the majority of the folks at the public meeting were white. Looking around the packed high school cafeteria confirmed that fact.

My mind returned to the graph we had seen a few moments earlier. In bright colors, it laid out the racial make-up of the students in my kids’ school district: 28% white, 31% Hispanic, 22% Black, 15% Asian, and 5% “other.”

Hmmmm.

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Talking to My Son About Refugees and Justice for Immigrants

Photo: Protest sign saying "Refugees are human beings" Text: "Talking to My Son About Refugees and Justice for Immigrants"

“What is it? Please tell me,” my six year old asked, his eyes wide.

“No, it’s too sad,” I replied. I had been telling my husband about news involving the Immigration and Customs Enforcement raids to deport undocumented immigrants. My speaking in veiled terms sparked my son’s interest. Telling him it was too sad for him only fueled his curiosity more.

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How to Be an Activist Parent

Photo: Woman holding sign in a protest march; Text: How to Be An Activist Parent

“I know there’s no guarantees, but this is the group that probably won’t get arrested, right?” I asked our leader as we stood outside of Union Station in Washington DC.

“Yes, that group already left,” he said, smiling. I breathed a sigh of relief. If I was going to get arrested for protesting climate change, I needed to make more accommodations than just getting a half-day off from work.

As someone who has been passionate about climate change for more than a decade, I’ve participated in my share of protests and political actions. Since becoming a mom, I’ve adjusted my participation accordingly. Here’s what I’ve learned about being an activist parent:

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How to Get Kids Involved in Local Government

Photo: People gathered around a table, looking at maps; Text: How to Get Kids Involved in Local Government

“I’m not going to be here for dinner tomorrow,” I told my kids. “I’m going to tell the people in charge of the city that I support our neighbors from other countries.” I was going to speak at our city council meeting about a proposed Sanctuary Cities policy. They nodded, then went back to eating dinner. While their interest in local government is pretty low at two and five years old, I hope that I can help get them more involved as they get older.

That’s because local government at the heart of a lot of policies that underlie unjust systems. It’s also a place you can see personal impact. While calling your Congressperson or national representative is important, you can rarely see the same level of individual response and even change that you can on the local level. From climate change to racist policing, getting involved in local government is one of the biggest ways you can teach kids to make a difference.

Here are some ways you can get your kids involved:

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What Do You Do When Your Dream is Crushed?

What Do You Do When Your Dream is Crushed? (Photo: Hand of a person writing in a journal while they are sitting on grass)

My activist heart is tired. My mama heart is too.

Old-school conservatives would have called me a bleeding-heart liberal. I admit that I am – my heart certainly feels crushed and bruised these days.

Like many people in the United States now, feelings of guilt, shame and borderline despair threaten me on a semi-regular basis. I always keep going, but the awfulness tickles at the back of my mind. Those feelings came to a head most recently with the news about separating immigrant and refugee children from their parents. While I had always been able to clear my head previously, these horrors just kept on creeping back in. Even time spent with my kids reminded me of how much of a luxury that is.

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