Sharing the Blogging Love

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Thanks to my friend Erin Curlett, who blogs over at Truthfully Told, for nominating me for a Liebster Award. This award is for and by smaller bloggers to recognize and promote other’s writing. (Some versions say “newbie” bloggers, but I’m afraid I’ve been at this far too long to be a newbie anymore.) It actually reminds me of the really old days when semi-popular proto-bloggers would have their own awards you could apply for. I remember I was particularly proud when I was 16 for my webpage to be recognized with the “Golden Finger” award!

This award is definitively nicer and a heck of a lot less angry. As per the guidelines, I’m nominating seven more bloggers, although I totally understand if they don’t participate in the chain mail-ish part of this award. I still recommend checking them out, as they are both fine writers and (mostly) my real-life friends.

Rules for the Liebster Award Nominees:

  • Thank the blog that nominated you on a post in your blog.
  • Answer the questions asked by the blog that nominated you.
  • Nominate 5-11 other new bloggers.
  • Create 11 new questions for the nominees to answer.
  • Notify all nominees via social media

Here are my answers to Erin’s questions:

Why did you start your blog?
I’ve had something that could be considered a blog in today’s parlance since 1998, when I was 15 and it was called an e/n (everything/nothing) site. For the most part, my reason for setting up a website back then is the same as my blog now – I’m a writer at heart and like to have an audience. Back then it was angsty poetry and vaguely misanthropic rants, now it’s mom stories and parenting philosophy, but the purpose is to share my viewpoint. In addition to some level of entertainment value, I hope that reading about my experiences either helps other people see that they’re not alone in what they are going through or inspires them to take action, depending on the subject.

Do you have a writing routine? If so, describe it.
When I’m at work, I write my first drafts on the subway as I’m riding home. Now that I’m on maternity leave, I’ve been writing the first drafts while I’m nursing. In both cases, I write on my iPhone using the Notes app. The iPhone allows me to type one-handed and the Notes app syncs automatically with the computer. After the kids go to bed, I copy the text into WordPress, edit it and add any graphics.

Who inspires your writing?
From an influence perspective, my favorite writers have strong personal voices and narratives. In particular, Anne Lamott has had a huge influence on learning to write with honesty and vulnerability. I wish I could be half as funny as her! Most of my other favorite non-fiction authors combine this sensibility with a strong scientific or historical context, such as Bill Bryson, Michael Pollan, and Bill McKibben.

From a content perspective, my family inspires the vast majority of writing on this blog.

Do you picture any particular person or people as your audience as you write? What are they like?
It depends on what outlet I’m writing for. I write things on my blog mainly for myself, without a lot of consideration for the audience. I think my audience is mainly progressive, slightly crunchy parents who are interested in bringing their kids outdoors. I know my one consistent reader falls in that category – my mom! In contrast, when I write for other publications, I think carefully about their audience and the type of content they would want to read. I have a very strong emphasis on audience analysis in my professional job.

What is your idea of the perfect day?
I believe my perfect day would both have more than 24 hours and none of the delay inherent to dealing with small children, so this is complete fantasy.

It would start with getting 8 straight hours of sleep for the first time in years, followed by a simple breakfast of bagels and cream cheese, like when I was a kid. We would then go on a hike as a family, in Yosemite National Park, Zion National Park or the Adirondacks. (A teleporter is provided, right?) We’d have a lovely picnic lunch from ingredients we picked up at the local farmers’ market followed by a guided tour of the area highlighting its history and culture. Chris and I would drop the kids off at one of our parents’ houses and go to dinner at a world-class restaurant. I’d say that we’d see a show afterwards, but I know even in Perfect Day Land that I’d feel too tired to appreciate it. So we’d just go home, have a really nice conversation, and go to bed together.

Are you an introvert or extrovert?
Slightly more of an introvert. I love talking and hanging out with people, but find a lot of social interaction, especially with people I don’t know very well, exhausting. Unfortunately, this reflects my self-centeredness, but I find listening to people especially tiring. Suppressing my desire to share my opinion and truly focusing on what the other person is saying takes a lot of energy. It’s something I’m working on though, especially as a parent.

Pick one: what is the hardest thing or the most wonderful thing that has ever happened to you?
The answer is the same to both: being a parent. Becoming a parent was pretty hard – 10 hours of labor wasn’t exactly fun – but the actual day-to-day work is both much harder and more rewarding. The hospital was just the start.

What is your go-to self-care routine?
Ha – self-care as a mom of a newborn and toddler. But there are two main things I do as “self-care” – one that’s healthy, one that’s not. The one that’s healthy is getting outside in nature, especially biking. Biking provides such a sense of freedom and power to me. The one that’s not is reading endlessly on the Internet. It’s so easy to fall down that hole.

What is your favorite book?
Traveling Mercies by Anne Lamott. Painfully, achingly funny and raw. I’m pretty sure it’s the only book that the author says her actions would inspire God to drink vodka out of the dog bowl.

What’s the best vacation you’ve ever taken?
While not resulting in the best stories – that was Ireland – Peru was my overall favorite. From the Amazon to Macchu Picchu, everything exceeded our very high expectations. Visiting the Amazon was something I had wanted to do since I was a little girl and I was so glad we found the time and money to do it. The only bad thing was that both Chris and I got altitude sickness, although thankfully at different times. Don’t believe anyone who reassures you that you won’t be too affected by the altitude because you’re young!

What have you learned about yourself through creating and maintaining your blog?
Through this blog in particular and the associated guest posts I’ve done elsewhere, I’ve learned how vulnerable and honest I’m capable of being about private issues. From breastfeeding to miscarriage to getting therapy, I’ve shared about all sorts of topics on here that I never thought I could talk to anyone about. While I’ve always had my own distinctive voice, sharing about these in a thoughtful, open way has led to a lot of growth as a writer and a person.

 

And my nominees are:

 

And here are my questions:

  1. What is your favorite topic to write about? (This may or may not be what you write about most often.)
  2. What are your highest goals and aspirations as a writer?
  3. Do your family members read your writing? If so, what do they think of it?
  4. What is your best travel story?
  5. What is your favorite piece of writing OR what piece was the hardest to write?
  6. What is your favorite movie and do you believe it’s the best movie you’ve ever seen? (It may not be!)
  7. What is the scariest thing you’ve ever voluntarily done?
  8. Who is the biggest celebrity you have ever met?
  9. What is your favorite children’s book?
  10. Where is your favorite place to have lived?
  11. What was the best part of your day yesterday?

 

Thanks to Erin and I hope you check out these awesome folks!

Waterfalls and Locks: Great Falls at the Chesapeake and Ohio (C&O) Canal

The Chesapeake and Ohio (C&O) Canal at Great Falls

To stave off an ever-increasing case of cabin fever, we headed out to the Chesapeake and Ohio Canal National Park on Monday. I had wanted to go for National Parks Week last week, but the weather conspired against us. But as Monday was sunny and in the high 60s, we were going, come hell or high water.

Or more specific t0 our situation, come a hungry newborn and cranky toddler. We were mostly ready to go – adults showered and dressed, the kid dressed and the newborn fed. But then Sprout wanted to do tummy time with Little Bird (he loves encouraging him). But then Little Bird needed to eat – again. But then Sprout had a meltdown because Chris was packing cantaloupe instead of watermelon and a turkey sandwich instead of peanut butter and jelly, even though he had asked for turkey earlier. But then, but then, but then. We finally left an hour later than I planned. The getting out the door routine with two kids is going to take some getting used to.

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This Too Shall Pass

This Too Shall Pass

Our little family is in a rough patch.

The sleep deprivation from being up for 30 minutes or (usually) more several times a night is starting to deeply affect me. Last night, there was barely an hour between when I would put Little Bird down and when he would start crying again. While I was running on adrenaline and optimism immediately after he was born, that’s faded. In the middle of the night, I’ve occasionally dozed off, awakening to the fear that I could have dropped him. While I blew through a couple of books in the beginning, I’m now too exhausted to do anything but check my social media over and over again in a soul sucking spiral. In the morning, I wake up with a sinus headache and a serious fog that I never really shake. I’ve had an on again, off again fever over the past two days.

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Kid-Friendly Activities to Make Earth Day Every Day

Earth Day doesn’t need to be limited to April 22 for you or your children. You can make Earth Day everyday by trying one of these six activities that start conversations about bigger topics.

Kid-Friendly Activities to Make Earth Day Every Day (Photo: Earth from space)

“What are we going to do for Earth Day this year?” I wondered to myself. While we try to embrace a sustainable lifestyle all year long, I wanted to make Earth Day a little special. It’s one of my favorite holidays, after all!

After poking around on some local websites, I found an event at the local nature center. But if you don’t have any organizations putting on Earth Day events, there are still plenty of options. Best of all, these ideas can spark new patterns to help you make Earth Day every day.

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Earth Week: Using Permaculture to Talk to Kids About Environmental Sustainability

It’s Earth Week – my favorite secular holiday! For an environmentalist, Earth Day is every day, but it’s still nice to recognize it. This week, my posts are all going to be on how to engage kids on environmental issues, from how to talk about climate change to fun activities that can spark long-term change. 

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Communicating about environmental sustainability is astonishingly hard; inspiring people to take action is even harder. In fact, I spend a good deal of my professional career contemplating how to do this effectively. Add kids into the mix, with their limited knowledge of science and ability to handle “big issues,” and it seems near-impossible. Kim Payne of Simplicity Parenting actually holds climate change up as topic we simply shouldn’t discuss it with children because it’s too stressful.

Unsurprisingly, I disagree. We have an obligation to teach kids about climate change and other environmental issues, if only because they’ll be ones who have to deal with this crap in the future. Plus, there are plenty of kids who want to know about them and like with sex ed, it’s better to give them good information than misinformation. I’ve been an activist since my elementary school self dog-eared a copy of 50 Simple Things Kids Can Do to Save the Earth and I came out okay. (Right?) But Payne is correct that we often discuss climate change in ways that are disempowering and frankly, scary, for kids.

Instead, I recommend using permaculture as way to discuss sustainability. While permaculture has its roots (ha) in agriculture, it’s actually much broader. Essentially, it looks to structure how we live around ecological principles, helping us work with, not against, nature. It is based on three major principles: care for the earth, care for people, and return of surplus back to the system to meet the needs of the earth and people. I’ve been a fan of permaculture since I moved to D.C. and started volunteering with a Transition Towns group, a movement based on the idea of applying permaculture to entire communities. I learned more about how to apply it to teaching children from Jen Mendez from PERMIE KIDs when I attended her Rooting DC workshop last year.

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What I’ve Been Reading This Week

 

 

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Photo of the week: A toad we rescued from the drain outside our basement window. 

More late nights breastfeeding, more reading than ever. This week, I’m obsessed with how children learn, how cars affect how we structure society, and working moms.

Lego is sponsoring research? I’m usually against corporate-sponsored research, but saying that children should mainly learn through play until age 8 is pretty awesome.

Simplifying is one of my main goals of the year, so the idea of slow parenting is very appealing.

Scandanvian-style outdoor preschools are becoming more popular in the U.S. and U.K. Wish we could afford to send Sprout to one here!

Outside Magazine has been one of my favorite magazines for ages and they’re providing some excellent coverage of parenting in nature, including Richard Louv’s new book, raising brave girls, and (again!) why Sweden is awesome.

Joking with kids and engaging in pretend play encourages kids to be creative. Based on how Chris interacts with them, Sprout and Little Bird are going to be absurdly innovative.

9 Must Have Outdoor Toys to Keep Kids Engaged – so classic.

I love eating food from a variety of cultures, so it’s good to see that my love of curry could lead to Little Bird being less picky.

“I so often am shushing you, my firstborn, setting you aside to run to brother’s aid as he needs me for the umpteenth time. I barely get you anymore.” I’m seeing Sprout more than ever while I’m on maternity leave, but I’m really worried about this when I have to go back to work.

Amazing series of portraits of real working moms.

We’ve structured so much of our society around cars that it’s hard to see how it affects us on a daily basis. From how our children play to our everyday safety, it’s time to rethink their role.

The day-to-day work of serving others can be deeply unglamorous. Let’s do the dishes together anyway.

Gardening is good for both the earth and those tending it.

Good article to read before you visit pretty much any historical location in the South.

Van Jones, green jobs extraordinare, talks comics.

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What I’m Doing Differently During My Second Maternity Leave

People say that moms are much more go-with-the-flow when it comes to the second child compared with the first, such as in this commercial. Much to my surprise, I actually do fulfill this stereotype. And it’s not just my perception – both my parents and in-laws remarked how much more comfortable I seem. While the fact that Little Bird is a better sleeper than his older brother and a fast physical recovery helped, so did the knowledge I’ve accumulated over the nearly three years of Sprout’s life. Here are some of the things I’m doing after Little Bird was born that I didn’t do the first time:

What I'm Doing Differently During My Second Maternity Leave

Encouraging people to visit: While welcoming visitors is the opposite of what most advice recommends, it’s been essential for me. I get cabin fever very quickly; I was getting antsy after a few days of being snowed in this winter. Postpartum, I have to deal with the double-whammy of not being able to bring the baby to public places before he gets his immunizations and the fact that exclusively breastfeeding him means I can’t leave for more than 45 minutes or so. With Sprout, I’m fairly certain this combination significantly contributed to some postpartum anxiety. Luckily, this time around I’ve had three different sets of friends visit, bearing news of the outside world and nice things to say about the baby. My friends understood that normal “host” etiquette was out the window and I was grateful for the company.

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What I’ve Been Reading This Week

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Photo of the week.  Dressed for jumping in puddles at the park with Sprout!

Another day with a newborn, another multiple hours spent reading. Ah well, it could be worse. Thank goodness for iPhones! So far, I’ve read Richard Louv’s Last Child in the Woods and N.K. Jemison’s Fifth Season (so good, so many horrible things that happen to children), along with a whole host of articles.

I hate the phrase “children are small, the dishes can wait.” For whom? The dish fairy? This article’s author agrees with me, especially in the haiku “The dishes can wait / They are only young once / I hope you like ants.”

All of this talk by Bernie Sanders about the wonderfulness of Scandinavia has just made me want to visit. Although I already knew a lot of it, this article on parenting in Sweden has just further upped my enthusiasm.

The AV Club is my go-to website for pop culture reviews. Not surprisingly, their Field Guide to Parenting series, starting with an overview of trains, is fantastic. The section on the ideology of Thomas and Friends is snort-tea-through-the-nose-worthy.

I’m a giant nerd who is married to another giant nerd who is a big superhero fan. So naturally, some of that fandom has rubbed off on me. This article on times Marvel has gotten it right with their female characters is pretty great, even if they leave out Squirrel Girl and the new Moon Girl and Devil Dinosaur.

I’m an older millennial, right on the cusp between that much maligned generation and the Generation Xers (who were also maligned in their own time). As I’m not in my early 20s, a lot of the millennial trend articles just sound really weird to me. Which is why this series on Fusion really struck a chord, from the parody Every New York Times Millennial Trend Story to the one on millennials who are not white, upper-middle-class, gentrifiers.

Privilege, especially white privilege, is a tricky and sensitive subject to talk about. The ever-brilliant McSweeneys puts its own hilarious spin on the “invisible backpack” metaphor. The Daily Beast tackles the Mighty Whitey trope  (oh, Eat, Pray, Love, how good and yet problematic you are) and this article on Patheos posits #BlackLivesMatter as a core concern of modern Christian theology.

As the daughter of a (now retired) schoolteacher, I am a huge believer in the importance of public education. So I’m really dismayed about the move towards charter schools, especially when they destroy the foundations of public schools like in Pennsylvania and in New Orleans post-hurricane Katrina.

The other big concern of mine in terms of schools is the focus on testing. Project-based learning seems to offer a lot of potential and this article on Edutopia has a great example of how the author worked with his son on a project to make a hospital for his dolls.

The mainstream environmental movement has been expanding in the past few years to really incorporate more social justice concerns, including racial discrimination. It can even include criminal justice, as this article from Grist about horrific conditions in New York’s Rikers Island prison shows.

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